Straight culture has for the most part always made me lonely and stranded, due to not having the right social skills or relational approach, when it wasn't only due to my reluctance of going by valued social norms and trends. In straight world, everyone knows how the women side is expected to be passive and contemplative while the men side is the one that makes the advances, pushes with a plan, talks first, etc. That's always been too much work for me.
Straight culture is despicably capitalistic, based on exclusive gimmicks of win/lose, gain/lose and "social performance". I'm not just referring to be more obvious example of douchey normie subcultures, but also all the pretend "progressive" milieus of more Lefty-minded people. The fact of owning a BMW or a big truck ain't a huge signifier compared to easy access to sex partners, along with nice apartments and other resources. All the straight couples and families, as well as the poly-groups I see around see to relish in their consolidated relationships, that often is connected to their social status.
Despite some claims of polyamory with the more progressive people, the so-called polycules of mostly-hetero people tend to be very exclusive, with standards for mating relate to age groups and/or socio-economic standing. Sex is still being treated as a transactional intercourse, part of the capital accumulation of the group, and exclusion to it thereof.
But I still have straight desires, and don't see a reason why these desires should change, as desire follows the shape of a person. I often feel like a women, which makes gay men go after me (something I never like too much), yet also desire the feminine. I never connected with this manly man view of men, always felt it like some unattainable format.