When I was in high school I was a shithead. I feel into the common culture that it was really important to have sex with people. I was really worried about it and constantly worried if I was good enough for someone to have sex with me. I based a lot of my self worth around it.
Later when I was interesting in having sex with men in a totally 100% non homo way I downloaded grindr. I knew nothing other than it was a may to meet gay people. I made my profile. If you haven't used grindr br it's different than tinder. Grindr has no match system. It's a catalog and if you click on someone's profile you can dm them and send them pics.
So as soon as I finished my profile I started getting tons of dickpics from senior citizens. Its was fairly horrifying. One of them looked like my grandpa. Pretty fucked up tbh.
But when I was talking to different people I was shocked with how efficent some of them were. Some attractive men started DMing me to have sex with them that night. They could even pick me up in the next half hour. Its was a astonishing experience.
After that I never really worried about sex being a focus of my self worth. I realized that I could have sex with people pretty easily and even unattractive people were having. sex with each other. My notions on immense beauty standards and toxic masculine ideals of sex were crushed. Which made me a much better person.