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turquoise_hexagon_sun wrote

woah that's really interesting bc i had the exact opposite experience... grindr has been decimating my body image and ability to feel attractive .... the beauty standards r so condensed into one specific type (hence the high number of faceless torso pics), and 'masc only' is something i see a lot even now... needless to say toxically masculine. maybe it would be a more fun experience if i was masc. so

My notions on immense beauty standards and toxic masculine ideals of sex were crushed.

i was shocked to read this about grindr hahaha. maybe it depends a lot on location ?

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turquoise_hexagon_sun wrote

yeah i get that too ...i guess for me it becomes very cold, what with the stats and stuff...like looking at it say 200 ppl viewed you today and getting 1 or 2 msgs is kinda demoralizing....feels like im reading hotness data about myself lol

but yea it can go either way: either it reminds u that ppl wanting to have sex w/u isn't a determinant of self worth or it exaggerates that it is

(i also lost faith in it knowing that the founder isn't queer (i think?) and is against gay marriage ...makes it feel like we're a product)

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