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Stigmata wrote

I’m a gay dude, and I actually liked the process of coming out. Parts of it were really crap, but I feel like it was really empowering for me personally, being able to say “this is who I am and if you don’t like it you can leave my life”. I also felt like it was the culmination of many years of confusion and sometimes frustration where I came to terms with my sexuality and got comfortable with it. (I feel like a big part of it was coming out to myself).

That being said, there is no necessity in doing something related to coming out; it’s just one way of expressing your identity, and it may not be something everyone wants or feels they need. It’s just one path of many.

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turquoise_hexagon_sun wrote

very interesting, i'm leaning towards agreeing with this, especially because (although not mentioned in this article) sexuality can morph and change throughout a person's life, yet we expect people to come out once, and as soon as possible.

my mom took it as a personal offense that i didn't come out to her, but also she assumed all her children would be straight lol..........i think this happens with many people though

anyway, the one way i find myself disagreeing is in the case of someone with a public audience...it always bothers me when people with huge queer followings who have hinted at being queer refuse to actually talk about it openly....but this brings up a whole question of celebrity -- do you have an obligation to be public about certain things for the sake of your audience or community.

one interesting related event would be Harvey Milk outing Oliver Sipple, as a sort of strategic move for the gay rights movement -- as if someone the country has accepted as a hero must come out because it may improve the cultural image of gay people

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