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_caspar_ wrote

wouldnt the main problem with monogamy be a must, obligation, or duty, which would be different than two people being together because they want, or desire, that formation, not because they must? monogamy seems also idealistic: viewing one's lover as an ideal, rather than who they actual are. and often times folks try to coerce lovers into how they think they should be. couldnt there be a distinction made between monogamy (out of duty, and under a contract) and a couple form (out of desire, and always subject to change)?

"shaming of couples"

is shaming really a good tactic to change peoples minds? I could be wrong, but usually it seems either folks double down on their worldview out of anger from being shamed, or change their behavior out of guilt from being shamed. either of those dont seem to be great results.

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_caspar_ wrote

I agree with you. I was just wondering if there was, or could be, a distinction between monogamy and a couple form not bound by musts. but maybe thats already relationship anarchy, or polyamory that just happens to be two lovers for whatever length of time.

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