I believe 100% in teaching my daughter bodily autonomy. When it is bedtime, I ask her if she wants a hug goodnight. I don't demand one. Last night she said no. I told her I was sad but okay and went to my room. I then broke down sobbing about it. So loud she heard and felt she had to come and hug me. She's said no before and I've been fine and cool before. Last night I had just come off an awful day and I don't think I had the emotional bandwidth for it. Fuck.