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moonlune wrote

cut them into very small tasks that are trivial:

"I won't do the dishes, but I'll wash 1 fork"

or even:

"I won't do the dishes, but I'll stand in front of the sink for 30 sec"

If you do anything more than that, it's only bonus.

Sometimes to do my homework, I just tell myself I'll sit down in front of my desk with my book open, and end up working for an 1 hour. Sometimes I just sit in front of my homework with my book open, and it's alright, I fulfilled my contract with myself.

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Ennui wrote

I write it in my planner. I hate it when things clutter up my planner. Empty planner, easy mind, Lao Tzu says.

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zoom_zip wrote

write your future self letters, then read them when you need to.

“dear piece of shit. i know you have no energy and you don’t want to do anything. i know you want to just lie down and wait until you are tired enough to sleep again. but just get up and go for a walk outside because you know you will feel better after. you know you will have more energy after you do it so just go and do that one thing and then if you really want to you can lie down again after. lots of love, your past self.”

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black_fox wrote

sheer robotic movement. or a to do list, feels good to mark things off

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masque wrote (edited )

Unfortunately, "motivation" is a state of mind that you can't necessarily always control. In such cases, perhaps the real goal is to figure out how best to make yourself do things that you are not motivated to do?

I've seen people advocate taking cold showers, simply as a way to practice the general skill of "making yourself do something that you don't want to do" in a way that is ultimately harmless and doesn't take up any more of your time than a normal shower would. Not sure if it actually works or not.

EDIT: The "break things into very small tasks" approach has also worked well for me in many cases. Once you start something, your brain frequently likes to keep coasting on the momentum.

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cyberrose wrote

If I really want to do it: Planing and lists of (small) next steps. If not: Just accept you don't want to (or accept you still have to). For actual doing: Either it comes naturally and I'm able to just tackle it. Or I want to do it then I try to tackle some next step in time boxes where I try to focus.

But tbh, I seldomly have problems with this stuff. I have times where I don't do anything and just accept that. But I also have periods I do stuff and I'm happy with it. This organized behavior is mainly also just for phases where I want to do more than I have time. So maybe I'm not the best source if you need motivational stuff.

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videl wrote

by starting things that motivate me themselves. ie starting a food growing area. once it's started you can't really leave it be without creating more problems for yourself. similarly with learning an instrument & other things which must be practiced consistently. if i stop for too long i forget much & become out of practice. this motivates me to keep going even when I not feeling very up to task.

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putridcod87 wrote (edited )

bigger tasks leaving it to the last minute now or never approach works for me but it clearly it also has its down sides also. smaller everyday tasks are more manageable for me without having to resort to this method

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MHC wrote

I recognize my limits. I don't tell people that I'll do things that I can't. I try to organise simplicity. I have one item that well fulfills my needs. Rather than many that don't!

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