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bloodrose wrote

This is an interesting take. My mother really enjoys board and card games. She becomes hyper competitive. I have for years avoided playing with her because the hyper-competitiveness sucks and I don't enjoy it. (My brothers and I would play for 2nd place growing up because she always won)

With Covid, all of our visits are outdoor and she has started to push us to play board games. She's getting meaner and meaner now. Our last visit, she was meanly competitive with my 6 year old, making her cry when she lost. It was disgusting. (I promised my kid next time we play, I'll be banker and will secretly cheat so her grandma loses.) I think this gaming competition is making my mom a worse person.

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inthedustofthisplanet wrote

I'm sorry you have to go through that. It's a problem that is showing it's face in other replies to this post. This is an issue in every part of our culture and it's so deeply ingrained people like OP will ignore it while saying stuff like:

"I would even consider this debate as a form of competition on some level. We're both trying to argue our points of view, but that doesn't mean there must be a winner and a loser."

Or even worse, those people trying to make comparisons to the way dogs play, and the issue with that is, well, we aren't dogs. The ideology of competition is so strong and difficult to shed. The moment "play," becomes as toxic as this it is no longer "play," but now about the desire to dominate and feel superior to others.

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