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edmund_the_destroyer wrote (edited )

"Yes the dynamic has changed" is not evidence, just a statement. And as a counter point things like personal ads, Tinder, dating sites, social networks of all kinds, sex discussion boards, and so forth came into existence in the same era as the sexual revolution and feminism started gaining power.

So when you think of the guy three generations back with medium looks having, supposedly, an easier time finding a woman than today remember that he didn't have nearly the same opportunities to meet women as men today do. He couldn't post a personal ad, he couldn't send private messages on Twitter.

But what he didn't have is message boards and other forums to discuss his frustration with other like-minded men.

Sometimes I think Dating 101 should be a mandatory part of education in the US. I'm an average looking guy. Finding a partner isn't that hard. Now, nothing is foolproof. But a lot of the incel statements come across like the writer is desperately hoping that if they walk up to the right supermodel and say "Hi" she'll immediately offer to bang him into oblivion. Attracting a sexual partner is a skill, no different than fixing a transmission, drywalling a room, reinstalling an operating system, or shooting a rifle accurately. The only difference is that the learning curve for sex and relationships is more painful because rejection hurts and you will get rejected many times. But working past the discomfort is worthwhile, just like enduring all the boredom and pain of a workout routine is worthwhile, because the end results are worth the effort.

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raindropq wrote (edited )

this is work-normalization /economist apologetics . and appears to be validating to the (In-Cel's?) resentment .

edit: added parentheses and question mark

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edmund_the_destroyer wrote

I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. Are you saying I'm inadvertently supporting incel arguments with that post?

That wasn't my intent. First and foremost, the idea that anyone is owed some kind of sex or consideration with regards to sex is flat out false. The argument over incel 'rights' ends there, period.

Second and less importantly, the argument that less than flawlessly beautiful men in previous generations had easier access to sexual partners is at best unprovable but most likely false. So even the incel's belief they have a special right to whine if not act still doesn't hold up.