Regardless of your opinion on the drama and subsequent exodus, one thing is clear: There needs to be a mechanism for disengagement between users.
I thought /f/mediation would be a good way to help heal interpersonal conflict, but so far it has been a failure. People feel targeted and attacked if anything gets posted there. Both users who we tried to initiate mediation with have left and felt hurt by it. Others have sought ways to try to circumvent the community's mechanisms instead of participate in mediation. Sometimes people just plain don't like eachother and mediation between them won't solve that.
So my proposal is to repeal the mediation forum as a first step. My new proposal is to suggest a policy that prioritizes disengagement between feuding parties. Basically this is a matter where if someone is feeling targeted or harassed by a particular user, we need to respect their wishes if they no longer want to interact with them. Moreover, if two parties are creating a toxic atmosphere for other users, the community should be allowed to vote that those parties disengage by no longer interacting publicly.
Obviously it would be preferable if we could enforce disengagement with a technical muting function (where users simply don't see eachother's posts). Since that isn't immediately possible, we would need admins/mods to enforce disengagement agreements e.g. we can say that the agreement suggests two users (the feuding parties) cannot reply to eachothers posts. Doing so will violate the disengagement agreement and be met with a temporary/cool-off ban (global or forum wide) if it was done intentionally and to provoke them.
The only way to remove the disengagement is to participate in /f/mediation, or we can make it timed where the agreement expires after users cool off.
I was wondering if people thought this was a good idea, how it could be improved, etc before I officially propose it (if at all).
Thanks for any input :)
If anyone has ideas/improvements, it would be great if you just add it directly to the document. Feel free to change or alter anything.