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ikk wrote (edited )

Get out of there, go to the woods, grow food, be self reliant. They're angry at these people for not working to fulfill their desires.

There's also the option of talking to the others about dishes in a way that respects their autonomy and their no. Clearly they are stuck in a mindset of domination, wishing for laws to force their housemates to do the dishes. I'm not sure that just leaving will help this person change that harmful attitude. If this person learned to communicate in a less authoritarian manner and with more empathy, I think they'd become happier where they are, which may be easier sometimes.

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ziq OP wrote

Just don't share dishes. When I lived with people they didn't touch my stuff and I didn't touch theirs. Unless you're in a relationship, no one should be responsible for washing your dishes but you.

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bloodrose wrote

Unless you're in a relationship, no one should be responsible for washing your dishes but you.

Even if you're in a relationship, do your own fucking dishes. Expecting someone else to do it for you is exerting control over the other person, control over their time and their body.

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ziq OP wrote

I was specifically thinking of your husband not doing chores when you work all day.

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bloodrose wrote

Lol, don't forget the trash he leaves on the counter and floor for me, too. hahaha I may have a trigger. sorry!

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ikk wrote

Yet another solution: Just do the dishes!

Writing that Reddit post surely took more effort than actually doing the dishes. It's nice, you get warm water on your hands and soap with lavender fragrance, and people are all really happy when the kitchen is ready to use again. Why not?

I love washing dishes, except when I'm being asked to, or when there's flesh or bones on em.

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moonlune wrote

Same I'll swap any chore for the dishes. I can listen to music and "log out" and watch the pile of dishes go down.

Also I hate eating in dirty plates

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bloodrose wrote

This is why I need to live communally instead of in a patriarchal family setup. I love to cook and do laundry. Doing dishes kills my back. I would love to trade chores with you. <3

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lettuceLeafer wrote

yeah thats how I do it. It works great. which would be anarchist solution tho people r weird and don't do that despite not liking the dish arrangement which is super weird.

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ziq OP wrote (edited )

I'm biased tho because I would never let a roommate touch my food or prepare meals for me or serve me in any way.

Normal people probably prepare meals for others they're not in a relationship with, so then it would make sense for a person who got served the meal to do the dishes/other chores in exchange.

When I lived with someone romantically I always did the chores and grew the food and we usually prepared our meals together.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

I'm biased tho because I would never let a roommate touch my food or prepare meals for me or serve me in any way.

Yeah mood lol

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ziq OP wrote

Also haven't eaten at a restaurant for 25 years. I can't stomach exploiting people's labour

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Yeah that shit makes me so uncomfortable too. I remember that was a post I made quite a while back that some people didn't like lol

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