Submitted by asterism in AsterismOvershares (edited )

I am guessing my sex list is mostly going to stay unfulfilled unless my wife becomes cool with a bunch of stuff (which she wont) or I divorce/cheat which I dont think i am willing to do. There is probably a couple shed be on board with and probably a couple that I woyldnt consider cheating but she would (she considers viewing porn of any kind or masturbation "cheating")

On the drug side the easiest would be becoming drunk. I have never been drunk, I don't know what its like.

On the "rock n roll" bit I have nevee been to a real party I also have never been "clubbing" kind of want to check out a rave.

this list mostly exists in my brain but I am working on getting into a file on my computer.

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tuesday wrote

I will never understand the "masturbation is cheating" people. Like what??

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asterism OP wrote

I told her I dont hold her to that strange standard and that became a conversation. ugh.

anyway i am just sneaky about it becuse fuck that.

Another time I let her know that I didnt care if she slept with other people. That time I got interrogted and basiclly accused of cheating. The context was a conversation about what we needed/expected out of the relationship so it wasnt really an odd thing to say

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lettuceLeafer wrote

divorce/cheat which I dont think i am willing to do

You claim you don't cheat but you masturbate. Curious /j

Being drunk is overated. It always sucks. Tho if you do get drunk drink lots of water with the booze. Like 1 to 2 glasses per drink.

Also it's kinda tacky but hemp derived THC is legal in the US. It's cheap as shit and legal. Tho it can have more negative health side effects due to method of extraction. Also they are legal companies so nothing they sell can be too overly harmful. And besides worst case scenario the edibles are as harmful as smoking herb.

I'm anti social enough that I can't comment on parties. I never went to like a rager or anything but like weddings are too much party for me. It's just a place for me to browse raddle and reading anarchist library with annoying people being loud and annoying. I've actually never gone to a club or a bar and I don't really intend on it even tho there are shit tons of gay bars, strip clubs and clubs nearby.

I actually did think about going to a drag show but decided liberalism was just co opting my brain and got mad lol.

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figwasp wrote

I was a really sheltered kid and didn’t do anything fun in HS. (I did “rebel” once to skip school in a snowstorm specifically to lose my virginity and it sucked), and I didn’t go to college until my 20’s so I was ready to experience some debauchery.

I drank but hated it (and now 20+ years later I don’t drink because it just makes me feel like garbage), and preferred weed when I could get it. I tried a couple other drugs and they weren’t as exciting as I expected from the hype, but I’m glad I tried them. I was really slutty too.

The only thing I regret about the debauchery was that it took so long to try it out AND I think I put myself into too many dangerous situations because I was either making up for lost time or making up for having such controlling parents (or both).

Everyone deserves to explore themselves and have a good time. I hope you get a chance too.

I’m sorry your wife thinks porn and masturbation are cheating. She’s wrong and that sucks.

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asterism OP wrote

I did do one thing fun in HS. Which was breaking into all the locked places amd exploring. probably one of my best memories from that time.

I think I am too much an overthinker to get into too much trouble but I do have to be careful when I am incredibly bored. more than once I have done foolish things to alleviate my boredom.

I think I am aiming to do a bucketlist item once a month until I run into certain ones then I will have to reevaluate probably.

yeah I struggle with my relationship with my wife because maintaining it involves giving up many freedoms. Somedays I feel I have stolkholm syndrome. No simple solutions (that I like anyway)

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Tecate_Coyote wrote

when i was an emt i transported a guy from the hospital back to his home. he was a big man, around 400 lbs and older, around 45. he was nice and asked about me, if I’d always lived in Kansas City or if I had moved from somewhere. I told him that I used to live in Connecticut. He said “Really? If I had ever left, that’s where I would have gone. I just liked the name.”

He hadn’t ever left the city he grew up in. He lived in a small apartment on the 3rd story and sat in this big lay z boy chair that had stains in the shape of his butt.

i bring this up because the way the man talked about Connecticut, it was in the same way you’re talking about your bucket list of things you missed out on.

i wish you luck.

on the party front- if you go alone, you’ll probably be alone the whole time unless you try to meet people. i go to festivals alone often. its a good time but it made me feel sad at first. you get over it.

drugs are fun. alcohol is fun but i enjoy it the most when i’m with friends. weed, acid and ketamine i have used alone and had an introspective pleasant time with. coke is silly.

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asterism OP wrote

I am debating right now on how to spend tomorrow morning (since I will have a good chunk of time alone)

Right now its a split between getting drunk, working on computers, or sleeping.

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lettuceLeafer wrote

Omg, voice chatting with drunk asterism sounds really funny. That's what u should do

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asterism OP wrote

Fuck, that sounds terrifying lol.

But also a druken raddle voice chat just seems like a very raddle thing to do.

hmmm.

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