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bea wrote

Having a girlfriend or kissing a girl isn't that important, it certainly doesn't make you any better than other people, and there's always time to find somebody you can spend your life with if you want that.

Not being hugged in your life doesn't mean you're bad either, though it's unusual if you've ever been close to somebody. ( at least your parents if not friends )

In the end none of this makes you a loser though. Just an ordinary person, even if society at large may make it seem otherwise. *sends internet hugs <3*

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throwaway1021 wrote

If someone is thinking less of you for not having a partner then that person would be the loser.

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zoochotic wrote

I don't know, do you want a girlfriend? If so, why haven't you? Never being hugged is not good, human contact is important.

I wouldn't say you are a loser.

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Mockingboy OP wrote

I don't know why? Maybe people don't like me. I mean is something normal for me sinxe this is my life since I was born, but sometimes I feel lonely

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zoochotic wrote

Have you put yourself out there and tried to meet women? Experiment a little? Relationships don't just fall in your lap. Some people start doing that a bit later, it's not that unusual.

If you don't want to that's fine too, but it might bring you happiness.

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Mockingboy OP wrote

I tried that. It isn't working

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jadedctrl wrote

What've you tried, exactly? `o`

If you haven't already, dating apps, local clubs, etc are great ways.

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Mockingboy OP wrote

I feel like something is wrong with me

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zoochotic wrote

Nothing is wrong with you. Socializing & relationships are a skill like any other. People learn different skills, at different times in their life.

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El_Sabate wrote

I didn't have my first kiss till I was 26, I know I felt like a loser for a lot of the time because of it, but having the benefit of a few more years under my belt I can see that I wasn't a loser, and neither are you. I had/have pretty crippling social anxiety, and I put way too much pressure on myself, so I ended up being pretty awkward and unable to have conversations with people. I wish I had a solution or answer for you, but know you're not a loser or lessor than anyone else just because your romantic life is less than you would like it to be. Do the best you can and don't be hard on yourself.

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L0rdEMPRESS_GaLaXyBrAiN wrote

looser

Certainly not.

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Mockingboy OP wrote

But you really think that? Cause people look at me like I am

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ramone wrote

That is clearly a hint at something, if your self conscious about what everyone is thinking of you, your confidence is low. Work on that, and you can attract women, no doubt.

I'm 29, I've only been in one serious relationship, and I've basically stopped giving a shit about not having someone, so I can empathize. It's hard to meet people and either want to be close to them and not want to come off as overly attached, or having a decent friendship going with little actual desire to persue a deeper relationship. My advice clearly wouldn't be good for much to help you find what your looking for, but I hope for the both of us that just being ourselves is enough. Love is a bitch anyways.

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asbestosstar wrote (edited )

It can be a waste of time to have a GF and I do not see whats wrong with it. Some people just dont want them. I am 16 and as the time writing this have never had a GF, and do not think its that bad

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F_x wrote

Why would that make you a loser?

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Larde wrote

Why did your parents never hug you?

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