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MichaelPemulis wrote

I know right?

Spend 5 minutes on just about any porn site and you'll find video titles that use words like "violate", "innocent", "corrupt", "tricked", etc. Sexualizing the act of taking advantage of someone in a position of little power/agency. Reducing sex to a commodifed and exploitative power imbalance. Hell, I've been guilty of indulging in those fantasies when I was a teenager and still occasionally have those thoughts pop up (although years of working on my shit makes it easier to combat).

I'd argue - based on observation and experience - this fetishization of vulnerability is present in both straight and queer communities, although to a lesser degree for the latter. It permeates so many aspects of our society and is socialized into us from the time we're born, so it's not a surprise that so many treat that as an acceptable norm. And if you deviate from that some people can actually be pretty hostile... I'm guessing because you challenge their preexisting beliefs about the way the world is or something, I don't fucking know.

Sorry for the wall of text rant, too much coffee, tldr men suck patriarchy is shit the world is a fuck