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MichaelPemulis wrote

The way you've pulled out a dictionary definition to respond to someone posing a question/challenging you on your beliefs... it really doesn't make you look good:

A) It's condescending in at least two ways. There's an implication that the person you're replying to doesn't know the definition of the word they're talking about. You're slyly trying to imply they're stupid or ill-equipped to be responding to you. In addition, the definition of a word is something that can be Googled in 5 seconds so there's also an implication that the person you're replying to is lazy or incapable of having done a minute amount of research on the topic they're discussing/the words they're using.

B) You haven't replied in a way that fosters constructive dialogue. You linked a definition from the Oxford English Dictionary and asked "does that help?" which comes off as a smarmy appeal to authority. You instead could've said something like "The Oxford English Dictionary defines bigot as [definition]. You replied to my message saying [quote] which I disagree with because..."

If you're not interested in putting the time in to encourage healthy, non-hostile interactions with people, you're not contributing anything productive to the conversation. You could've chosen to not reply instead. Thus the question becomes, what are you trying to do here? Foment conflict?

I'm not trying to back you into a corner, but I do think you should reflect on the way that you interact with people here.