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Zzzxxxyyy wrote
I personally think you’re better off investing in learning to accept yourself as you are.
However, I’ve dated a couple women who were very insecure about their appearance and both got nose jobs. One, I can barely tell the difference, but she’s quite happy with it(though it did nothing to resolve her insecurities). The other had a lot more drastic change done and she’s very unhappy with the results.
It also comes with a minimum of one year to recover and see results. One full year of your life, when your current outward appearance maybe matters for 10 before your aesthetic preferences change.
I’m not going to go into the theory of it, but there’s nothing unethical about spending your money how you like as long as there aren’t obvious externalities. You personally are not going to make a change in established inequality locally or globally, charities are mostly scams.
So you have financial cost, time cost, risk of a bad result.
Or you can find some hobbies with intrinsic value, compensate by being fashionable, go to therapy, invest in deep meaningful friendships, family(if you’re so lucky) and a loving community.
I also found after some mushroom trips I was much less judgemental of my own appearance. Life drawing also helped as I became more aware of how different everyone’s bodies and facial structures are.
yaaqov wrote (edited )
The society I live in puts an enormous, and unevenly spread, amount of pressure on people—those read as women especially—to conform to beauty standards. As long as that's true, I'm not really interested in placing a value judgement—positive (e.g., 'exercising personal freedom') or negative (e.g., 'sending a bad message about beauty')—on the actions or reactions of the people most vulnerable to the violence that patriarchy musters for nonconformity.
ChaosRocket wrote
People should be able to make their bodies look however they want. Few people would say it’s wrong to dye your hair, get tattoos or piercings, or get braces to straighten your teeth. I don’t see how any other kind of cosmetic surgery is any different.
robottroymacclure wrote
in cases of physical disfigurement it becomes a medical necessity. otherwise, i might respect someone less if i knew they had work done for frivolous reasons. still it is your right to do whatever you like with your body.
robottroymacclure wrote
i would also add that there is already so much beauty in the grotesque. people should accept and appreciate how being cool and not conventionally attractive is way better than just being normal ho hum perfectly symmetrical and normal looking. if youd rather be different i want to see people attempting to be DIFFERENT! get your teeth filed down, put silicone implants in your forehead. Be a freak. :)
ziq wrote
curious - how can you buy a personality?
Zzzxxxyyy wrote
Yea, zero context there... obviously, if this is about gender dysphoria follow your heart ❤️
robottroymacclure wrote
robottroymacclure wrote
if your interested, i know a guy.
retiredshared5 wrote
Problematic in that it widens the gap between classes in allowing all upper class to be conventionally beautiful whilst not offering such an ability to the lower class.
retiredaccount wrote
I know right? I've never downvoted so many people in one thread on this site before.
retiredaccount wrote
Is the "comment we disagree with" something along the lines of "suck it up buttercup, dysphoria doesn't real"?
ThisGuyIsAProblem wrote
I think the more appropriate word is character, but your 'personality' is a combination of several aspects including mood, knowledge, appearance, skills, and assets. By focusing on an ideal characteristic and using intent, it's possible to progress oneself in that direction. People who focus on health indeed become more conscious about healthy decision making and it changes how they identify themselves as well as how they behave.
The easiest way to buy personality is to identify what identity you want for yourself, and then purchase the assets associated with that particular identity. By using those assets, you will begin acquiring the same experiences as the character you want to become, and in effect, start to become.
ziq wrote
What a load
Xylanthius wrote
i want to plastic surgery a whole new face. I want to plastic surgery my nose, my cheeks, my eyes, my skin...
I'm poor though so i have to work with the hand I was dealt. :-(
An_Old_Big_Tree wrote
I think that anyone can do what they want with their own bodies and needs to make their own decisions about what's best for them, but I would encourage people to be aware of how society creates and shapes our desires, and to make sure that the norms we subscribe to are prefigurative rather than norms that reinforce the hierarchies of this world.
parias wrote
It's a nuanced and personal question. There's a tension between the individual desire to be attractive and to reap the benefits of that, and the desire to abolish (or at least, not support) our societal standards for beauty. We should despair for the construction of a world where it's expected we all receive cosmetic surgery--look to places like South Korea for examples of this. In the end, it's a personal choice.
jaidedctrl wrote (edited )
I think she was talking more about someone wanting to change their bodies to look more attractive— not about SRS or anything transition-related, since that's a necessity, not about “trying to look more attractive.”
GaldraChevaliere wrote
Do as you will with yourself, it's your body.
ziq wrote
Xylanthius wrote
my eyes.
ThisGuyIsAProblem wrote
Put the money into a better personality, not a better smile
Unless your a vet with half their face blown off and eyeball hanging out of the socket