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Tequila_Wolf wrote

I don't really ever do either, both have weird relationships to our idea of free will and our ideas of debt, and also to some degree are tainted by religious ideals I'm not interested in.

When people do harm I pick up what pieces I can and keep going.

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glitter_v0id wrote

yeah. I am a vindictive ass and don't seem to feel empathy in a "normal" way.

it's something I see as a personality fault and am trying to lash out less, exercise some learned empathy / problem solving skills and generally be less of a dick to others.

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Jessica wrote

Hell no. Revenge only furthers the cycle. We need dampeners to stop the buck before it goes on to hurt other people.

...unless it's for something petty like stealing my sandwich in the fridge.

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Jessica wrote

Hell no. Revenge only furthers the cycle. We need dampeners to stop the buck before it goes on to hurt other people.

...unless it's for something petty like stealing my sandwich in the fridge.

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ConquestOfToast wrote

I will rarely take revenge. But there are also situations that require neither. If someone betrays my trust to the extent I know longer see the value in continuing our relationship, then I simply drop them and move on. I don't necessarily see the necessity in forgiving people sometimes. It seems like more emotional labor than it's worth.

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DonaldSTapes wrote

Seeking forgiveness and reconciliation as it will reduce the likelihood of future conflict.

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hydroxide wrote

If you are so afraid of conflict that you'll risk getting victimized over and over again--which you will, because forgiving bad behavior encourages repetition of said behavior--then to each their own, I guess; but the point of revenge / punishment of bad behavior is to prevent others from being harmed in the future, not to assuage one's own bloodlust. When you forgive the bully, he will be emboldened and will continue his descent into inhumanity. Thus, in order to prevent future harm, the bully should be physically, permanently prevented from continuing his chosen course of action.

You, as the instrument of the Gods, shouldn't take pleasure in doing this (beyond the satisfaction of having removed the threat), because if you start to enjoy destroying monsters, you will inevitably become one yourself; but make no mistake about it, bad people ain't gonna change because you ask them nicely. That's a lie the masters tell us so we don't fight back against abuse.

TL;DR -- If someone smites you on one cheek, SMASH him on the other. Forgiveness is for suckers. Forgiveness gets you walked all over, again and again.

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jadedctrl wrote

I'm way more likely to forgive them, even when I probably shouldn't. I find it kind of hard to get angry or upset, even when I totally should-- but I only strike back if they've done something extreme and really shitty.

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ziq wrote

I'm incredibly loyal to my friends and incredibly vindictive to my enemies. But I try very hard not to be.