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roanoke9 wrote

This very much aligns with my personal practice. This means I keep very strong connections with my direct descendants especially as well as their chosen families. I pick and choose with my own generation or older. I'm lucky my chosen family overlaps some with my biological and consider a person's chosen family paramount though and would not pressure anyone to keep contact with abusers.I guess my position is midway between yours and Captain ACAB. If an abused child could opt to "get new parents" without negative repercussions, much suffering could be mitigated. My own abuser is not living anymore and I am as over it as can be so is a moot point now. I should write something longer and more coherent on this. Sorry for some of the vagueness but I hardly want to map a family tree online :). Also I' m totally blanking on paragraph breaks atm.