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ziq wrote (edited )

there's nothing going on with you and me. i said i didn't want to talk about the bad stuff that happened in my life. it has nothing to do with you and i don't want to talk about it with anyone

the only thing happening with you and me is that i tell u when u do something i don't like and ur pretending i dont

im not even angry at u. it's just frustrating being accused of something i know isn't true

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Tequilx_Wolf wrote

That's very confusing, because you clearly have plenty issues with me that you still hold over my head.

If you don't want to talk about the bad stuff that's happened to you in your life, that's fine, but at least there was a time where I thought you were a friend to me, so aren't you interested in that remaining the case? Because you're not acting like you are interested, especially when you're lashing out at me and others when you're dealing with bad shit. So are we friends or not, and if we are, how does that make sense for you considering the laundry list of issues you have with me. I still care about you so it's very frustrating trying to get clarity on what's appropriate in terms of how I should relate to you.

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ziq wrote (edited )

i'm not holding anything over your head. you said something that upset me (calling me gross for thinking someone is being stupid) so i told you so. then you accused me of not telling you when u upset me so i listed some of the times i've directly told you that you upset me. that's not holding something over your head, it's trying to defend myself against an untrue allegation

Because you're not acting like you are interested

idk what made you think i have any ability to maintain relationships. i have no friends, i've said it countless times.

the reason i stopped talking to you on matrix is because it makes me deeply uncomfortable to share unpleasant details about my life with you or anyone, and it feels like you take that as a slight against you, when it has nothing to do with you. i don't want to have to articulate into words horrible things that i'm trying to not even think about and every time you ask me to talk about my life it makes me deeply uncomfortable, so i stop checking matrix as the whole app has become triggering to me. i don't want to explain how i feel to people or even have to think about it.

So are we friends or not

our relationship is whatever it's always been. me withdrawing from social interaction even more than usual is not a judgement on you, it's an inability to manage social interaction

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