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lettuceLeafer OP wrote

My brother had an affair. In order to have this affair, he made his wife do a disproportionate amount of emotional labor around his children and household. He lied and said he was working late and so she wound up with no help with two children (one a baby and one a toddler).

And I guess that's what it boils down to for me: are you making someone do labor (emotional or physical) so you can be in a relationship with a seperate person? That is using your partner in a pretty gross way

Yeah I agree that was see a violation and an example of him taking advantage of his spouse.

Now, I don't personally believe I "own" my husband or his affections. If he found someone he loved more and was happier with, I'd want him to be with that person. I just uhhh don't want to do the emotional labor for it. He'd have to go have that relationship on his own without my help

Mood except for the having a husband part.

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