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zoom_zip OP wrote

preempting the “didn’t someone ask this before” comment

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DeletedButArchived wrote

For me this only applies to stuff that is a political talking point in the USA. Iraq war, abortion, gun control, min wage.

If you get away from that deep pit of time wasting I get lots of unique convos.

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zoom_zip OP wrote

what’s a unique conversation?

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DeletedButArchived wrote

Examples:

A drought starts and I talk with a family member about how to get water in the current time. The drought is brand new and applies t the specific area so I wouldn't have had this convo before. Individuals planning together to deal with modern problems specific to them is almost all ways new to me.

Talking to people about deep personal feeling and experiences. While many probably are similar they are fairly rare and diverse so each time I have deep convos with People they are unique to me.

Finding people who have unique thoughts and opinions which stem from scavenging ideas they like and tossing what they don't. Then it grows and changes as they are with their experiences. So talking about how these unique politics influence their like is a pretty unique experience.

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throwaway wrote

Something that holds meaning for at least one of you. Something that isn't just what you talk about, because that's what people talk about. Something related to your actions, plans, fears, dreams, regrets, hope and experiences in the real world.

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ziq wrote

yes but i'm also pretty sure most of the people are the same people

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zoom_zip OP wrote

i did originally type different/same people but it went over the character limit for post titles

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existential1 wrote

Yes...but also because over a lifetime Ive come to be able to correctly anticipate what someone is going to say even if its a new topic so much that I dont bother speaking at all. If a question comes to me, i just simulate the conversation pretty quickly. If im surprised by the conversation, then I'll bother to ask IRL. Sometimes I converse just to test the accuracy of my simulation...rarely am i surprised. It makes interacting with humans quite boring. Which perhaps explains my relationship to animals and plants.

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moonlune wrote

I appreciate the mundane and the boring.

Ask people about themselves, you're bound to find interesting stuff about their lives and passions. I also try to avoid "political keywords" when talking politics so as to have real discussion with "fresh" takes.

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kin wrote

Depends, I have a wide range of interest that most people don't share so the rare occasion when I can have an interesting convo I try not throw up all the stuff I wanna share.

I have this with my sibling. And very often we bring weird and awesome new stuff to exchange opinions.

And in general people tend not to self expose their original thoughts too much bc of the backlash

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zoom_zip OP wrote

can you give an example of an original thought?

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kin wrote

When I was saying original thoughts I was thinking in the ideas I had for short stories, plots, characters for example. But for my sibling would be drawing ideas etc.

You can argue that there isn't "original" thoughts, when a exchange of this thoughts happen in a conversation I am draw to contribute more, in reading clubs for example someone can express a point of view that you never thought yourself, or provide an alternative interpretations. For me that's the use of my phrase original thoughts, to kind of address your question.

I can say that I don't feel comfortable with everyone I met to share some kind of ideas, I need some stuff pre established before going in some potential "weird" convo about theory, art or life

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ruin wrote

That’s all you.

Difference is primary, similarity is created in the process of cognition.

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celebratedrecluse wrote

yes, all the time

it is what impelled me to stop talking so much. i recognized the mirror.

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Tequilx_Wolf wrote

Yeah, sometimes if those conversations are political I even compile them into a FAQ and print them. People have the same shallowly-engaged ideas about most political stuff.

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