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thelegendarybirdmonster wrote

I know someone who pays one of their unemployed friend to clean their house as a way to help them without the friend feeling in debt to them.

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snack OP wrote

That's a good situation then.

I'm still kind of unhappy with the notion that there could be a situation where the friend who cleans would feel indebted to the other one, I mean that's the person doing the work. Why wouldn't the other party feel indebted to their friend, if anyone?

I'm not trying to argue with you or what you said, rather with this idea that sits deep in our cultural belief system - that someone who is in the 'weaker' position should feel indebted or grateful to someone in a more fortunate position, for helping out. I'm glad you said what you said, because it made me reflect on things I wouldn't have otherwise.

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