i'm not really the right person to talk about this and i'm still sorta new so sorry if I'm saying anything wrong or if this post is shitty or poorly worded.
until recently i thought people choosing whatever gender identity they feel best represents them (including having no gender or not caring about their gender) was a good thing, but it seems gender abolitionists and gender nihilists disagree. idk the subject seems a little scary and complicated to me and it's sorta stressing me out.
and i guess seeing some more opinions on this might help me figure out where i stand so if you want to share your thoughts go ahead.
Fool wrote (edited )
On understanding identity abolition I'd actually recommend an Afro-pessimist text. https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/k-aarons-no-selves-to-abolish-afropessimism-anti-politics-and-the-end-of-the-world
My journey to Gender Nihilism (and Nihilism as a stepping stone to Squirrealism) began with Baedan.
https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/baedan-baedan It heavily Nihilist - so when it wasn't something I read immediately.
https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/baedan-against-the-gendered-nightmare Baedan 2 is really getting into Anti-Civ
Baedan 3 is probably more easy to engage if not already familiar with Nihilist texts, but isn't available on Anarchist Library yet.
Audio versions are available on Immediatism for the main sections of each book, including from Baedan 3.
The thing I really want to point out is that while one can free themselves of the burdens of identity, they must still navigate the "material" reality of those around them. If these things bring people comfort, support them, but lay the groundwork for them to make the journey beyond when they're ready. But for one's self, words are nothing but communication fluff - define them, don't let them define you.
Another text I'd recommend is Jacob Blumenfeld's book on Max Stirner - audio available from Immediatism