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fortmis wrote

What do you even do to prevent this kind of thing from happening in the future. The anonymity of the internet has teeth...

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soairse wrote

Don't shit where you eat imo. If it's not safe to break anonymity for opsec reasons, it's not safe to sext

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roanoke9 wrote

Idk. I can only say what my practice is for that kind of interraction. If someone does not do cam or voice, then I don't either. If it is text and pics only, then there is ofc a chance one is a fake. Also a chance both are fake. Which could be okay fine if both parties know this (aside from stolen pics, it gets really convoluted doesn't it?).

Text alone, no pics is something I've done before, but always knew the person on the other end could just be faking and took the interractions as such.

It is ultimately a calculated risk, but there are practices that can reduce that risk. For anything that would lead to a irl contact, much stricter measures would be in order, mutual cam or voice exchange prior, plus the usual precautions of a safe public space (whatever that even means nowadays) for first meet, having a trusted person check in with a text. There is more, but that's a sample. Since we're in a hierarchical society with a pervasive culture of misogyny spreading the word as to how to keep yourself safe is pretty important.

What is pretty scary is that probably none of these precautions are even known that widely, much less practiced. And in some scenarios, with pics and vids ore-existing on a platform and then that person interracting with someone who has not reciprocated- there is really no good answer, just try to keep yourself safe as you can and know the risks you take before you take them.

One really has to have the will to not do things in the default way to have any semblance of safety. Everything is set up for video or no attention, pics or it didn't happen, you take a risk, but I won't reciprocate. If you are too trusting you are going to put yourself in danger and too suspicious and you simply give up any possibility of connecting to another human being.

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