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roanoke9 wrote
Hierarchy, Patriarchy and the continued existence of the state that protects rapists from self-defense actions of those they target as well as deterring preventative measures of all kinds.
Exlurker wrote
The pressure to 'get laid' before you're 20. I can remember the pressure to do a one-night stand or I'd be alone forever the moment I turned 25.
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Exlurker wrote (edited )
That's not what I meant, I meant I had societal pressure to have sex at all.
I definitely do not thing getting laid is the same as raping anymore and my 'last resort' was going to be paying a prostitute for the record.
As another correction, it wasn't so much 'being alone forever' as it was being judged by others for being a virgin.
Please, maybe I deserve blame for thinking like that but I was never so heartless to think of doing it, I was in a mind paradigm of No Sex = Neckbeard = Lower then trash. Now I think Rapists are much worse then Neckbeards.
I didn't even want to have sex until others pressured me. I was fine just masturbating.
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Exlurker wrote
I realize this now but I had to go through the Seven stages of grief including bargaining and I realize this is also part of my conditioning.
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Exlurker wrote
I realize now that I was mostly Regurgitating Incel propaganda that I heard when I was a teenager rather then thinking for myself.
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Exlurker wrote (edited )
No, I didn't try rape anyone, I just tried pickup lines and failed.
Until I was shamed I was fine masturbating until they told me it was pathetic.
soairse wrote
Not sure why people are downvoting you. Rape is one of patriarchy's biggest safguards. If it's safe not to be a cis man, then there goes the "eat or be eaten" mentality and the requirement that you find safety in power over others, and patriarchy is obsolete. Pressure to "be a man" and have sex is definitely part of that
Exlurker wrote
I don't really agree with you, when I made the post I basically just unthinkingly listened to the Incel posts online who make a disproportionately large amount of noise but most perpetuate rape the least.
asterism wrote
Men
patriarchy
power dynamics.
smth like that